Bullying

J has been in a really good mood for the last few days. Strange!

Last night we went to a parent information evening about bullying. It was very interesting. Girls tend to outdo boys at academic subjects & apparently they do at bullying too - they are far nastier & more subtle.

What was interesting was they said we shouldn't expect the children to deal with bad bullying, it has to be an adult who intervenes & brings it to an end. In my day there was no way I'd tell my parents or teachers if someone did something to me at school.

At the end they asked if there were any questions. One woman kept asking questions which showed she obviously had hardly listened to the talk at all (still teachers must be used to that). Another woman said her daughter had been bullied she'd reported it to the school, it had stopped but then started again & now her daughter's refusing to go to school. Someone asked her if she'd told the school it had started again & she said 'No, what's the point cos when you tell them it stops & then just starts again'. She kept going on & on & on & people kept saying 'Why haven't you told the school?' until the teacher said 'Stay behind & we'll sort it out now'.
Another mother said 'Surely with making bullying high profile there's a danger of children falsely accusing each other of bullying?'
Perhaps there is but you have to feel sorry for teachers sometimes.

While we were there J went with Tim & his family to his sister's drama show which he enjoyed.
Today I took J to school, took a detour on the way home to give Becky a lift from dropping off her car for MOT, went to new housegroup where there was a new person who was nice but talked a lot, went to pick up P who had to pick up something for work in another town, on way stopped for lunch, ended up getting stuck in traffic so realised would be really late to pick up J. This happened to be the day he forgot his mobile phone. I had bright idea of texting 3 of his friends whose numbers I had asking them to tell J we were late & to wait. Got following replies:

Friend 1: no reply, presumably phone off.
Friend 2: 'Sorry I don't know what you're talking about'.
Friend 3: 'u r not ur mum'.

Sigh.

Thankfully Friend 2's dad phoned back & sorted out situation & even waited until we arrived over an hour late so J could sit in their car & keep warm. What a nice man!

When we picked up J he said 'Someone did something to me at school today but I'm not telling you what it was or who did it'.

Ok, where will I find this in the Anti-Bullying policy?